By Gordana Biernat.
I have been working for some time as a mentor and moderator at an online concept where we do webinars for 6-10 people at the same time.
Since the discussions require an open mind from all the participants, I have created a method called Conscious Conversation with which we open every session.
It is basically a reminder of how to share information with each other in the most beneficial way while at the same time helping each other to gain higher form of insights.
A conscious conversation creates a safe space for people to open up and share their experiences. These are the six ground rules for what a conscious conversation is.
A Conscious Conversation is:
1. Truly LISTENING to the other.
This means – Being present in the NOW moment. Not thinking about what you are going to say. You are giving your full attention to the person speaking.
2. RELATING to and BUILDING on what the other is saying.
This means – Not starting your sentences with “Yes, but…”
3. SHARING from SELF by letting the information flow through YOU .
This means – Not only repeating facts and quotations from others, because that is something everyone can look up on the internet. What is interesting to the others is your own thoughts.
4. Based on the UNDERSTANDING that there is NO RIGHT or WRONG. There are only different OPINIONS and EXPERIENCES.
This means – NOT talking through your EGO. Not trying to “convince” or “win” the discussion by argumentation and “I am right – you are wrong” thinking. Learning by argumentation is a poor way of gaining very little knowledge.
5. Being CURIOUS and ACCEPTING other people’s views.
This means – Know your SELF.
6. Being HONEST with your INTENTION.
This means – No hidden agendas. Always being honest with what it is you are trying to convey.
So, let us follow these simple guidelines and let’s create safe space where we can freely share our deepest thoughts and most subtle experiences.
Conscious Conversation in short:
1. Know who you are.
2. Be FULLY present in the conversation.
3. TRULY listen to the other.
4. THINK before you speak.